We all know them, work with them, are related to them, or in some cases—are them. Negative Nellies are people who are constantly negative and radiate bad vibes. They’re not necessarily bad people, but they’re not the life of the party.

I don’t know when it started bugging me—perhaps when I turned 30 or when I became a mother, but it’s definitely something I notice and do not appreciate these days. Constant negativity is a toxic thing to be around. And I’m not NOT guilty of it. I mean HELLO, this section of my blog is called “What a crock” and it’s where I complain about things. We all have bad days/mornings/weeks/months, but I like to consider myself a “look on the bright side” kind of gal most of the time. I also believe the kind of day/night/week we’re going to have is completely up to us. Make a choice to wake up and think it’s going to be a great day. If things go wrong, ROLL WITH IT. React responsibly.

For example…

Assume an event you have to go to is going to be fun. It very well may not be fun once you get there, but it sure as shit won’t be a great time if you’ve already decided it won’t be.   

Get over bad weather. (I’m talking to you, Midwesterners)

Don’t worry so much about what other people are doing and thinking. WHO CARES?

When I’m in social settings, I don’t want to hear people gossip and talk aimlessly about other people for no reason at all. I am a mother of two kids under the age of three, so I don’t get out much. When I do, I want it to be a positive experience. I don’t think that’s asking for too much. And please stop making fun of people’s clothing, body or physical appearance. Women who do this? Come on, you’re not helping our cause. Be better. Life is fucking hard. Let’s not make it worse or harder to live for ourselves, or anyone else. I know there are likely people reading this thinking “I’ve heard you do and say these things too Allie.” OF COURSE I have, I do and I will. I am human. But I want to be better, every day. We only have one life, and it’s a short one. I know it can be hard, but let’s get excited about things again people!


Kindness. Compassion. Empathy. These are the things I’m trying to work on most in my own life. But it’s hard to do that when you’re surrounded by negative thoughts and people. If there are people close to you who are constantly negative, don’t just immediately cut them out of your life. Sometimes they’re your family, your spouse, your kid, your best friend and you can’t just cut them out. Nor should you. I’m a big believer in putting it all out there. If you’ve noticed someone is more negative these days, try to find out why. Talk to them. Tell them what you’ve noticed. Approach it from a place of love, not judgment. If you’re the negative nellie in your world, take a good look at what’s going on in your life. Make an effort to adjust your point-of-view. I also know that for some, a change in attitude isn’t always as easy as it sounds or seems. But everything starts with self-awareness. If you’re constantly miserable and underwhelmed about your plans, something might be going on. I’m not a licensed medical professional, but I know everyone deserves to be happy.


Coming soon… MEAN GIRLS.

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